Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the world. However, because it impacts people in different ways, it can be difficult to explain—even to those closest to you. If you’re struggling with depression, leaning on your partner for support is essential. That requires being able to explain what you’re going through and knowing how to ask for help when you need it most. That can be easier said than done, especially when you’re not sure how to describe what you’re feeling or what you need. Let’s take a look at a few tips you can use to explain your depression to your partner and ask for the right kind of help and support.
Decide Why You Want to Have the Conversation
Before you sit down to talk to your partner about your depression, ask yourself why it’s important to you. The more confident you are in your reasoning, the easier it will be to explain what you need. What’s the reaction you’re hoping for? What do you want from them? Do you know the kind of support you need? What don’t you want them to do?
Answering these questions for yourself first can make it easier to have answers when your partner responds. It’s also a good time to educate yourself as much as possible. Your partner is going to have questions. They’re going to want to know whatever they can about depression and how it’s impacting you. Do your research so you can provide them with the information they need before getting into the personal side of things.
Make Them a Part of Your Everyday Treatment
The best way to deal with depression, anxiety, and many other mental health conditions is by seeking out professional help. However, you’re not going to sit with a therapist 24/7. Managing depression on a daily basis requires diligence at home. Your partner can help with that if you let them know how.
For example, if you find that something like regular exercising helps you manage your depression symptoms, ask your partner to support you or join you. They can become your running buddy or encourage you to take a walk or go for a bike ride when you’re feeling low.
Your partner can also support you in your treatment by encouraging you to attend therapy regularly or by listening and talking to you after each session to learn more about what you experienced. Making your partner a part of your management techniques every day will give them a better understanding of your depression and will make it easier for them to support you.
Keep Talking About It
Depression doesn’t go away overnight. Your needs can change. Your symptoms can shift. You might learn to manage it in different ways. It’s important that you keep talking to your partner about all of those things. Having one conversation about your depression or asking for help one time isn’t effective. Keep the conversation going as often as possible.
Encourage your partner to ask questions whenever they want, and don’t be afraid to keep asking for support as your needs and wants change. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and chances are they will be more than happy to make adjustments based on your needs. It can feel a little intimidating and even overwhelming to discuss depression with your partner. If you’re struggling with opening up or you need more support, feel free to set up an appointment.
Surrounding yourself with support is important, but therapy can help you get to the root cause of your depression and develop a better understanding of it, so you’ll be able to discuss it with your partner more clearly and confidently. Reach out to me to learn more about how depression treatment can help.